Sep 23, 2008

Pros and Cons being a career woman

If you read my post about me being Very Sad after son questions me on why I have to work, while his friend's mommy are not. I received quite a lots of advises and well wish from my dear blogger friends, but there is this one particular comment from anonymous reader and a msg left in my chatbox regarding on this issue that caught my attention.

I don't know who is this Pak Cik..but if you read his (just assume he is a male lah) msg , i don't think it is right to say a person shouldn't have a kids if they want to find more money. I don't know..i just don't agree with what he says here (sorry ya pakcik..its my opinion only). If I have lots of money but no kids, whats the point of making so much money???? Oh!! Maybe I can buy that Hermes Handbag, ya?? RM10k won' be a problem what.. since I have so much money.

But there is one comment that should be an eye opener for all..Husband or wife kah..doesn't matter lah. I was so sad to read and at the same time feel better after reading a comment from Anonymous reader. (Just click the pix below to read her comment). I cannot agree more on what she said.

Somehow, anonymous comment freed me from the guilt I've been keeping in me. At least I know, i'm working and doing what I'm doing now, everything is for my kids.

21 comments:

chegu carol said...

Now, smileeeeeeeeeeeeeeee KadusMama!! hehehe

GregChai a.k.a. tukang kupi said...

Finally, a good answer for us to ponder. Married life is sure no easy thing, I too feel if the husband is not 'so rich' then it's best for wife to get a job, atleast if the husband 'screw-up', wife can support herself and children. I suppose you can smile now.

I'm married to a working wife, sometimes she goes outstation leaving kids with me, we don't have maids, but who's complaining? right, I'm glad i choose working wife. Cheers.

Nessa said...

Don't feel guilty anymore KadusMama. Anyone can see how much you love your kids :D

Kadus_Mama said...

Chegu Carol ~ *SMILE LIKE IDIOT* heheheeeee

Gregchai a.k.a tukang kupi ~ Yeah..maybe if i have millions in my bank account, i will quit my job and look after my kids.. :)

Nessa ~ Mana lah bah ada mama tia sayang anak kan...*smile like idiot again*

Mell_f said...

I agree with anon too. Dad always remind me to be financially independent despite of having a financially-stable BF.

If i'm going to get married soon and quit my job, i'll make sure i at least have a small business to run. Bisnes bikin kek pun cukup la,asal ada income sendiri.

I've read the post jg ba kdmama, but rasa mcm nda layak pula mau comment ni. huhu.

I hope u feel good now :)

mom2ashleyaidan said...

great ... Now you don't have to be stuck in a dilemma:)

LxndreaSB said...

all the best yah my dear friend. pray about it and you will find the answer in God.

Kobie Vanessa said...

Hmm..don't worry Kadus, soon after Isaac & Inesha besar, they'll understand jg tu (like me), hopefully everything is going to be just ok :)

Deana E said...

i understand how u feel. I am feeling the same as well, i'm deciding too whether to quit or stay. through blogging i have met few SAHM and WAHM mama so I won't feel too guilty to quit i fI do.honestly, being a SAHM is not easy as some people think. It's harder in fact and sometimes it drives you nuts hahaha..whichever you choose, will support you!

Gallivanter said...

Your kid is too young to comprehend, but believe me, he will come to understand the reasons. I remember my mom being a housewife until my dad died, that made all of us sacrifice a little, as she had to start from scratch. It was a difficult 6 years for us.

Your kid will understand, it's only a matter of time. :-)

Just said...

Agreed with anon too. Sure your kids will understand the situation one day and they will sure love you for what you have done for them... :D

Nick Phillips said...

You kids will understand and so far you've been doing a great job anyway :D

Kadus_Mama said...

mell f ~ Yeah..my dad told me that too..tingu lah..kalau ada modal, buat online business lah nie..hehehe at least can stay home..

mom2asleyaidan ~ Not 100% guilty free...but much better now.. :)

lxndreasb ~ Thank You.. :)

Kadus_Mama said...

Kobie vanessa ~ iya bah..I'm sure they will understand juga tu nanti..

Deana e ~ Being a SAHM is tougher than working..believe me..working 24 hours at home is never easy..what more with a kids who constantly trying your patience..hehe

Gallivanter ~ I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. Your mom is sure one tough mommy who can raised her kids all by her own. Respect her for that.

Kadus_Mama said...

Just ~ Lets hope they will understand it one day.. :)

Nick Phillips ~ Thanx for the compliment..hehehee!

Mimi said...

lambat sya hari ni... sakit bah... :-) tidur satu hari. i hope all the comments made u feel better coz they made me feel better too... hehehe... in hv a friend who is a SAHM with 2 kids, and another 1 on the way. she told me once that after a few yrs, she feels like she couldn't take it anymore she wish she can go and find a job herself. she also said that sometimes when her husband came back from work, she'd just walk out of the hse and lepak somewhere so that she can de-stress herself.

so, don't worry. sama juga tu... if later become SAHM, get stressed out, angry all the time, screaming at the kids all the time, laaagi tu budak2 ingat kita x sayang diorg, kan?

Poppet said...

agree with mimi.. wat the use jadi SAHM klu nanti kita selalu marah-marah to kids and hb sebab selalu penat tia guna jugakan..
take our own time.. when we are ready to a WAHM or SAHM then we will be either one.. if we are not ready yet.. then dont.

Kadus_Mama said...

Mimi ~ alalala!!! Sakit???? Hope you will get better soon.
Iya bah juga kan..if d rumah tapi marah saja selalu teda guna juga..lagi lah anak ingat nda kena sayang..

poppet ~ Iya lah..nanti2 lah pikir kan..but now, sia masih mau keja lah..hehehe not ready mau jaga anak di rumah jak..

Lab papa said...

Kadusmama,

Cheerup kadusmama. Sa selalu ambil my mom as role model. Itu ari sa komen kan in one of your post. Teda kereta oh, naik bas antar balik tg aru, kemudian dia balik kerja sana sembulan..Bas Lin Tung lagi dulu2.

All the best to you kadusmama!

Kadus_Mama said...

lab papa ~ iya!! Your mom memang one tough woman oh!! Respect her for that..
Now I feel better already.. :)

Wel^Beiolman said...

Great God mama...there's always a reason for something...well, the anon's comment really good..she/he made a good point..for his/her life...which anyone of us can apply..great that u're feeling better and freed u from all that "burden"..don't feel guilty..appreciate, cherish, share, utilize your everything for them..