Jun 13, 2008

I'm stressed..again!

I don't know why..but this past few days (and including today) was very stressful for me..The fact that my maid want to go back next month make me even more stress than I'm already are. I did talk to her, asking for her to help me until October. She is ok with it, until she told me she has to ask her boyfriend first. I'm screaming inside me..FOR WHAT????? (She was supposed to work with me until Dec, but stupid bf told her to come back next month)
I asked her to let me talk a reason to the bf, (i'm still not sure why i have to ask from her bf) and this happend two nights ago. I'm telling you i'm soooooooo damn angry to the bf. I was asking and telling him my reasons in the most polite manner, and he gave me the most annoying and dumb answer. Here was our conversation.(Translated in english)
Me : Hello! Is this R**I's Bf??
Bf : Ya!
Me : I'm her boss. As your gf has explained to you, i will need her favour to help me until this coming Oct.
Bf : I don't think that is possible. I want her to be back next month.
Me : Why?
Bf : Because I haven't see her in few years (Liar!!! They last met in february)
Me : I thought you two already met in Feb??? And I don't think 2 months will be too much to ask. At least she can save some more money for her family and for herself.
Bf : I can give her money and for her family too (Stupid a$$!!! i only know he transfered some credits to her phone and definitely not money)
Me : (A little bit angry that time) It's not the matter of you can give her money or not, i only want to tell you i need her favour to help me until october.
Bf : "AUNTY", if you have heart, you will let her go back next month (Am i the monster here??)
Me : (Voice higher a bit) Why you have to tell her what she can do or not to do? You two aren't married yet right? I supposed you have no right to tell her what she can do in her life.
Bf : (petending not listening) I want her to come back next month. Thats it.
Me : (Blardy H**l!!!! punya i angry setengah mati that time). Ok! Since you are not her family yet, i don't think i should even ask for you permission to let her work with me until this oct. Her family should make the decision. Not you.
Bf : If you want to force us to accept what you say..i cannot do anything then!
line ..... Toot ............... Not he hung up lah, my maid's phone no credit! Of course I'm angry lah that time. What a lame excuse he gave me to for wanting my maid to go back. In case you are wondering, my maid is sabahan and she has been working for me since last year. I sent her back last december, and she came back again last Feb to help me to take care of my kids. She is supposed to work for me until end of this year and not next month. But the stupid bf told her to go back. Why I'm angry here, because my maid agree to help me but i will need her bf permission first. Heck! What for???? If only you know what i feel now.. *SIGH* Sakit jiwa already..
I just called my dad regarding this matter, and i hope he can do something to help me. If no help coming, i might need to become full time housewife, which scared the hell out me. I'M NOT READY TO BECOME HOUSEWIFE! If you think i should find an Indon maid, no thanx, I don't want to take the risk of her running away after 3 months working with me.
I'm already 'pening' thinking about this matter. There is more about my conversation with my maid's bf, but the more i recalled about it, the angrier i become now. And the annoying girl sitting next to me make me even more stress! Stress..stress...!!

18 comments:

queen bee said...

Cool down!!! Before i finished reading this post i thought your helper is an Indonesian but luckily not.. takutkan if she ran away with the children.. palis palis, kan... i'm doziiinngg off too.zzzzzzzzzzz

Kadus_Mama said...

Iya! Last time my friend malang tul..the maid buat hal yang tida boleh ko imagine..thats why sia takut already tu..

M@uRiNe said...

Heran betul sa napa maid ko let her bf control her. Itu baru bf. Sdh kawin tia tau lah... Ada kwn sa pun yang let her bf to decide whether to give her family money kah tidak. Me said palui juga ko ni. Bukan duit dia pun to decide. Anyhow, mmg risky maid indon. Hrp2 everything turn ok.

ArMs said...

ai... Don't care la what her BF said. You're helper is willig kan and that's all that matters... You're even paying her kan... I'm on your side...

Kadus_Mama said...

m@urine ~ Iya! sia pun tia paham..my sis advised her pasal sinta2 nie..but ntah lah tu..i already told my dad, and he is going to ask the family soon..pening kapla nie

Kadus_Mama said...

arms ~ Of course I'm paying her! haha adakah tidak mau bayar..

chegu carol said...

Biasalah kalo sdh sinta...mesti mo 24-7 melekat maa...

In the 1st place, u shouldnt have ask the bf bah tu. Kin panas seja ckp sma org mcm tu. Go straight to the family since by right ur maid is still under her family's care. But kalo family dia pun akun seja anak durang ikut tu bf...well, susah jg mau paksa kan.

Hope the matter will be settled pretty soon. I oso kenot imagine myself jadi full time housewife. Unless of course my laki give a big amount of money to spend...ok juga kali lah. Hahaha...

Now...Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale.

Deana E said...

i also thought your helper indon. tell me about it. i have been listening to my friends maid probem for years and when it come to me, i freak out. my helper only last 1 month and i decide not to jamin her, balik balik kena call bf. me to not ready being a housewife yet..

Ninie Jane said...

kureng juga tu bf dia... palui2 hehehehe... jan ko dingar ckp bf dia kadus... suruh ja tu maid ko cr bf baru hehehehe

Kadus_Mama said...

chegu carol ~ Erk..not sure about the melekat 24-7 because as far as i know, they only meet once in a month..
My dad going to see the family soon to discuss about this matter..the family doesn't even know about the existance of sang bf..ekeke
Ya! I'm really scared thinking i'm going to be a housewife soon..hahaha! hopefully i won't have to be a housewife..

deana ~ no..my helper to sabahan bah..she is quite ok..and my kids sudah besa with her, especially daughter. Bout my friend punya story, nanti sia blog about it..it was really horrendous experience for her..

ninie jane ~ iya..memang kureng! if ko yang becakap sama dia tu kan, mesti ko pun kapanas! dia ingat tu helper sia tu barang kepunyaan dia..

carolinebabby said...

TT waduh waduh....cuba kau bikin contract suruh dia sign....bulih bawa pigi court bah....kalau sia tau sepa bopren dia tu nnt sia pigi MARAHHHHHH sebab BABAL PALUI DAN TOLOL...sya yg panas ni...silaka.....inilah org org yg teda tanggungjawab...ei bikin panas eh...

Kadus_Mama said...

caroline ~ B, hahahaha nah ko pun tensen kan..my dad pun marah tu sebab dia yang tulung sia cari si helper nie kan..tunggu dia p cakap sama family dia la dulu..

urang ranau said...

hmm tensen sia baca ni post ko..kecian ko kan kadus_mama sia rasa my mum also sudah pernah mgalami ni keadaan...sama juga tu "mintamong" mo kawin jd mo berhenti kerja in 2 days notice...mama sia tpaksa cuti 2 minggu (teda gaji) hmm till dpt mintamong baru..hope ur mintamong also can get new bf though..huhuhuhh

Kobie said...

haiyaaa!!sa pun ikut stress o bca ur story pasal maid ni, susa skrg cari maid yng betul2 "setia" like d old days kan, jiran sblh punya maid dulu Om Timur,ever since kita kecil lagi till now masih lagi menjaga anak2 jiran sblh kita tu..klu ada maid mcm tu senang ati juga kan?

OLie said...

duih.... masi muda ka your maid ni? Why need others to run their life and make decisions for her? tsk tsk tsk..
Bagus ko kasi racun dia cari BF yg lobih baik... he,he...
Sia jadi maid ko la.. free lodging, free food kan? LOL! Kidding...

Choc Mint Girl said...

Kasian jugak si R*** tu nda pandai buat decision sendiri. Hopefully, ada solution la kes dia ni. Dari dia jak bah ni! Relax ko, Cuz!

Kadus_Mama said...

urang ranau ~ get new bf??? hahaha sia rasa dia bertekad sudah mau balik tu..

kobie ~ iya! like jiran kita punya helper tu memang bagus kan..senang hati oh kalau ada helper macam tu..

olie ~ itu lah..sia pun nda paham napa bf yang mau decide dia punya life..
ko mau jadi maid sia?? akakakaaaaa

choc mint girl ~ itu lah tu cuz..adakah bf yang decide apa dia mau buat sama life dia..terpaksa sia bepikir dari sekarang macam mana mau solve ni problems..

Ornest said...

nontiyanan noh matu om miarau-arau di kumawin hahaha (ngam kaini?)

Sia ndak pandai pasal urus maid ni. Wife sa lebih arif. Hal2 maid sa percayakan sepenuhnya sm dia and sa support apa saja keputusan dia supaya dia ndak paning satu org hahaha

Cuba tanya hubby ko apa dia punya pendapat.. mangkali dia ada idea baik punya :D